Let me also say that I think the idea of the tefillin date is a little weird, I mean who goes on a date and brings their tefillin.I dont even bring my phone on dates, I think it really means to say that when you wake up in the morning and say oh shit I forgot my tefillin, thats a proof that you are doing well in other areas- just maybe not the sexual activity part.Like many high school girls, I used to have trouble with boys. But the lack of boys and regulations regarding fraternization bothered me. Because, let’s be honest – I was an adolescent girl. ” And one day, one of my Rabbi’s emitted a rabbinical sigh and responded, “The reason for shomer is not because touch is so . Romances filled with curiosity and boundaries and bowing and witty remarks and slow escalation. And sacred things should be saved for sacred moments. I’ve sensitized myself to the point where I apologize if my arm brushes against someone. But in my case, the issue was with the lack thereof. I took on shomer because I wanted my first time holding hands, my first kiss, to be with someone worthy. Where, if I reach for a water bottle at the same time as another human being, I’m cognizant of the warmth of his hand.
When a male sticks out his hand to shake yours, you look him in the eyes and extend your own. And When Rochel is not studying in panic or involved in a deep conversation with a stranger, she works as a freelance writer and photographer.
I’d gotten a book deal, gotten hardcore about this whole Orthodox thing, and hitched a ride with my best friend’s ex-girlfriend and her dog to New York City.
I know you are not a Rav, but I have a question: What do you think of one who stops being shomer negiya in order to eventually get married?
I am a little weird, I find myself to be shomer until relationship but even then I tend to only touch the girl I am with- I brought up all these theories.
My most commented post on ever was me describing all of the different shomer negiah categories people fall into.
And back in the day (when I was young and sprightly) it used to be easy. Because I wanted to do what those I respected were doing. Because Judaism is not only the Judaism of my Forefathers, it is Mine. I went from Rabbi to Rebbetzin, Teacher to Mentor and asked the same questions time and time again, “Why should I be shomer? Because with every skin to skin contact, a flood of oxytocin cascades through the brain to cause a drug-like induced sense of trust and devotion. I didn’t want to have to hug to have that feel good feeling. I took on shomer because with shomer, you don’t even need to touch to feel sparks.