(aka, "Why are you single: The Remix)This is one of those backhanded compliments that really has no response. As a Plus-Size Princess, I often wonder if the guys asking me out have dated big girls before (not that it matters, but I do wonder), and I’ve learned that the answer is rarely helpful.When men say this to me, it makes me feel like something is wrong with me — especially because 99% of the men who use corny lines like this will not make any moves to take me off the market. If his last three girlfriends looked like Jennifer Lopez, I may feel insecure, but if his last three girlfriends looked like Rebel Wilson, I might wonder if he’s a chubby chaser.No one wants to date some one who does not talk, is boring or nervous. The trick is to select from among these the questions that are closest to your heart and whose answers are important to you.So dating experts advise that short of having a paper full of questions, you must be ready with a list of interesting, impressive and enjoyable questions that will keep the conversation thriving in those five-ten minutes. You must go about the dating event with a positive attitude. Also remember never to be tongue-tied and paralyzed if you can't remember the important questions; there are so many inane things to discuss and enjoy!” The world already gives single girls the side-eye; there really is no need to bring up singledom on dates.You’re so pretty, I’m surprised someone hasn’t taken you off the market!Some of you may be thinking that this question means the guy is trying to plan a future date for us. There is no faster way to make me feel like I’m failing at life than to ask me why I’m single.
In the present world of speed and frenzy, speed dating is the instant dating solution for today’s youngsters.
One thing you really don’t have is the luxury of time.
If you are tongue-tied, you are out of the picture. There are numerous other questions you can ask on a speed date if you rack your brains.
I've tracked and analyzed data, spoken to computer scientists, and figured out what makes certain profiles successful.
I even wrote a book about what I learned—and included a final chapter written by the man who took me out on my last-ever first date.
Should I say, “Well, I don’t hook up right away, so most guys get bored with me, and that’s why I’m single!