She needed to get her suit from the dry cleaners for a Monday morning interview.
Somehow, even though she made it clear that the dry cleaners closed at noon, they had to drive 20 minutes out of their way to get Bart an egg sandwich at his favorite diner, and while they were in the neighborhood could they just stop at the health food store so he could pick up his favorite sprouted wheat bread?
What is the psychology that underlines this fear and what can you do about this?
Selfish lovers often suffer from feeling inadequate.
Selfish lovers are often hiding something they are very ashamed of as well.
May be you have an ex who you still have very strong feelings for but you just can’t bring yourself to go back into the relationship because you feel your ex is self – centered and you just can’t get out of your mind those times he/she acted selfishly -in or out of the bedroom?
Some studies even show that men and women who put themselves at risk to help someone else they do not even know are better lovers – in and out of the bedroom.
Unfortunately, unless something so obvious happens like someone refusing to share his dinner or her popcorn at the movies, or if you’re really good at noticing odd things about others, selfishness in another person is a difficult trait to identify early on in the relationship – before you fall in love with the person.
Their feelings of inadequacy run so deep that they end up feeing very ashamed.
To cover up this shame, they are internally “still” and this “stillness” drives the giver in the relationship to want to keep on giving as a form of resuscitation since the taker often feels dead.
They can have moments of generosity and charm, but for the most part, they simply lack the skill or willingness to be thoughtful and considerate.