The second thing to remember is that your new dating life could bring a new spark to your married friend’s marriages.
Remember all those butterflies you get when you first started dating? You experiencing those firsts again could help inspire your married friends to seek that in their marriage.
This can cause extra expense and extra stress if you later decide to get remarried or finalize your divorce, so you need to decide carefully if you really want a legal separation.
Remember that a legal separation is not any simpler or less work than a divorce, it just means you can’t remarry at the end of the case.
These questions are valid, however, the more important realization is that being divorced isn’t a terrible thing. Think about all the things you learned about yourself, how you are better off and remember that being divorced doesn’t define you.
Once you have accepted that fact, then deciding when to bring up your past may not seem as daunting.
Fortunately, there are a few easy thoughts that will hopefully help ease your mind and bring back the excitement of going on a first date!
The first thing is to get past the stigma of being divorced.
Do you do it right away, is it something you wait on?
This does not mean that each and every item is split down the middle.
It means that in the balance sheet listing all of the marital assets and debts, each party will normally receive a net equal apportionment, regardless of the configuration.
Courts don’t necessarily divide marital property evenly in equitable distribution states.
In Minnesota, judges apportion assets between spouses in a just or fair balance after considering several factors.
A legal separation is not quite so simple, it is somewhat similar to a divorce, whereby you divide assets & debts, deal with custody and parenting time, but at the end you are still married to that person, which means you can not get remarried until you go through the divorce.