One of the most common questions divorced parents ask me is: When should I introduce my new partner to my children?My best answer is to take your time dating after divorce and don’t introduce your new love to your kids if you are dating casually.Rather than planning a long visit, it’s best to have a brief, casual meeting with few expectations.Another important consideration when introducing your kids to a new love interest is their age.Next, the setting and length of the first introduction is crucial to success.Meeting in an informal setting may help your kids feel more relaxed.How do we help kids through these transitions and avoid instability? Kristen Hadfield, a post-doctoral fellow I supervise at the Resilience Research Centre who has been doing research in the US, Ireland and Canada on mothers, stepparents and kids. First, parents are cycling in and out of romantic relationships at a higher rate than ever before.
Parents who get into these relationships may have very different expectations for how things should be than the men and women who they’re bringing home.When it works out, the kids benefit from having more adults in their lives.But what happens, as so often does, when the relationship breaks down?While it’s normal to seek solace, companionship, and a sexual relationship after a breakup, it’s crucial to take it slow so you can assess whether this relationship is casual or might be permanent.The number-one thing to keep in mind when deciding when to introduce a new partner to your kids is timing after your divorce. Even if both of you are in love and seem to have a lot in common, breakups are common and kids get caught in the crossfire.It's not necessary for him to meet every person you go on a date with — this may be overwhelming and confusing.