If my wife were a member of the Conservative movement's Rabbinical Assembly, even attending this wedding would be grounds for expulsion.
My 22-year old college-graduate daughter has been dating a Catholic boy, also a college graduate since they met in high school.
The word "intermarriage" has been the convenient scapegoat for many of the ills in American Jewish life.
Countless sermons have been wasted on this topic, and its specter has launched numerous fund-raising campaigns for institutions that usually have little clue on how to creatively adapt to a changing community.
When any of them visit, our Shabbat talk inevitably turns to the people they are dating and how difficult it is to find a nice Jewish guy with whom to start a Jewish family and raise Jewish children.
One unpartnered friend, a rabbi, actually flew to Israel for in vitro fertilization and is now pregnant. "But since I'm getting older and haven't found a soul-mate yet, I'm going to start my own family." These Jewishly involved single women could have other options, but those aren't sanctioned by the Jewish community. It is time to remove the stigma from dating and marrying non-Jewish men.
It’s not that he’s unfit to be with her; he’s of fine character.
However, the fact that he’s not Jewish makes him inappropriate in principle to be with her.
You don’t need to consult a rabbi to figure out that being a single woman of a certain age in the Orthodox Jewish community is no piece of babka.
My wife, who is a rabbi, generally does not officiate at interfaith weddings.
But when a widowed Holocaust survivor and close friend of ours wanted to marry another close friend, my wife was supportive; clearly they were not going to have any children. Holding the Jewish community's line on not performing interfaith marriages or the happiness of this couple?
Most of the Jewish people I know well don’t consider themselves religious at all. However, most of the Jewish people I know are also somewhat observant Jews, which means that they go to Temple on some of the Jewish Holy days, and sometimes observe the Sabbath ritual, not because of the religious significance for them, but because it’s a cultural tradition that they cherish.
This is how we approach it, mostly, in my house, and my husband was raised Catholic, and doesn’t know much about Judaism. I don’t think many non-Jews know that this is common in so many Jewish homes.
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