What they are doing is really uncool and unacceptable.
Your ex and "your friend" are the ones who should feel stupid, NOT YOU! Their relationship is working because of the "scandalous and forbidden" element. When that wears off, and everyone in the community moves on to the next piece of gossip, and your ex and your friend really get to know each other, the appeal will fade. He or she could be doing this to you to act out his or her passive aggressive anger.
For those of us who don’t live in a fairy tale, it takes the kissing of some freaky frogs to get to a prince (or a princess) charming. He just, you know, plays a lot of video games “for research.” He lost his phone (again), so it’s not his fault he forgot you had plans and didn’t text you all weekend. Whoever he is, all of your friends will love him, your mom will start fantasizing (in detail) about what her grandchildren will look like, and you will feel nothing but an impending sense of doom. Just because someone is “perfect” doesn’t mean they’re perfect for you.
If, you know, finding someone to share your life with is your thing. He asks you to move to another state for his job, but when you do, he resents you and tells you he only asked because he “didn’t think you’d actually come.” None of your friends know him, because you only ever hang out with . When you ask him what he wants out of life, he replies “You.” He takes you on a date Thursday night, and somehow he’s still at your house on Sunday night, and he wants you both to call in sick to work on Monday so he doesn’t have to leave your side. He’s the perfect guy for an equally ambitious, independent woman, or a gal who likes being with a totally absent partner and doesn’t mind coming in second place to a job. It took these relationships (and some serious growing up on my end) to learn that a healthy relationship consists of two people who act as a team, want the same things when it comes to major life choices, laugh together, and put each other first so that way everybody wins. What ex-stereotypes and dating horror stories did I miss out on in my single girl years?
I felt like a naïve chump who was the subject of their laughter. If you find yourself in this situation, here are some tips on how to handle it and how to keep from going insane: 1. Plus, when the relationship ends, the only thing people will remember is how you reacted. DO NOT make a scene and get into a girl fight with the girl. You don't' have to be overly friendly to your ex and your friend.
So, as a follow-up to my last blog, here’s my super scientific algorithm for the exes every girl should have in her back pocket, in order to find her Mr. He holds your hand and lets you cry when your ex gets engaged. She might like you as a person, but liking a guy in a friendly way isn’t what makes a woman want to have sex with him.Sexual attraction is what makes a woman want to have sex and unless you are making her feel that, anything that you say about “seeing each other” or “dating” or “going out” will seem weird, awkward and even wrong to her.A couple of weeks ago I received an email from my daughter’s school, addressed to the parents of all Year 5 students.The email was entitled ‘A Sensitive Matter’, and though the subject line was cryptic, I knew exactly what it referred to.The couples didn't spend time alone together, so it didn’t seem dangerous in any way; it just seemed unnecessary at this age, and a little inappropriate.“I think you’re too young to date,” I told my daughter, and she agreed. She was happy, it was all innocent fun, and I decided to give her my blessing.